You may be wondering, is there much of a difference? Well, have you ever struggled with setting and achieving goals to lose weight, get healthier, stronger, more vibrant and have more energy? If so, this is where setting our standards through non-negotiables with ourselves makes all the difference.
They are not what we wish to do but rather standards we hold ourselves to because we know that if we don’t, we won’t feel good physically, mentally and even emotionally. Sure they cover the basics of self care but can also include the next level I’d call self-love.
I think you’re getting the idea. In what area(s) do you need to set a standard for yourself in order to start living and feeling the way you desire? Is it with adding in or leaving out certain foods or amounts of foods? Is it in your social media consumption? Is it getting more sleep or exercise?
Write down your ideal non-negotiables and then pick 1–2 from the leave out and 1–2 from the add in categories. Start small and consistently practice those. Repeating them in your head is another way to reinforce them. Completely leave out vocabulary like try, hope, wish, should, could and maybe. Shift to more powerful language like I don’t and I do vs. I can’t and I won’t.
Well it probably means you are human like the rest of us. Slips happen, however, slips aren’t a regular occurrence. If you find this happening often, you haven’t set it as a non-negotiable and you’re likely trying to fool yourself. 😒
Now, for the occasional slip ups – Here’s a good non-negotiable with your self…
I do not beat myself up for the slip ups.